Ukwenza abahlobo kunokubonakala kulula kwaye kulula kwabanye abantu, kodwa kwabanye kunokuthetha umngeni obalulekileyo ebomini babo. Into ecacileyo yeyokuba ukuba nabahlobo kubalulekile xa kufikelelwa kwintlalo-ntle ethile kunye nolonwabo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukunika uluhlu lwezikhokelo zendlela yokwenza abahlobo kwaye ukwazi ukwenza ubudlelwane obukuvumela ukuba wonwabe ebomini.
Ukubaluleka kobuhlobo kubomi bemihla ngemihla
Alithandabuzeki elokuba ubuhlobo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bomntu. Abahlobo baya kubonelela, phakathi kwezinye izinto, inkxaso yeemvakalelo kunye nokunceda ukuphuhlisa ingqiqo ethile yoqhagamshelwano. Ngokutsho kwezifundo ezahlukahlukeneyo, ukuba nabahlobo kuya kukunceda uphucule impilo yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba.
iiklasi zobungane
Ubuhlobo bubudlelwane beemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu ababini obusekelwe kwimilinganiselo njengokufana nokuthembana. Olu lwalamano lubonakaliswa yinyaniso yokuba bobabini abantu baya kubelana ngezinto ezifanayo, ixabiso kunye namava. Ngokuphathelele iintlobo zobuhlobo, oku kulandelayo kufuneka kuboniswe:
- ubuhlobo besizathu Bubudlelwane obuza kuphuhlisa lula phakathi kwamaqela. Oku kunjalo, umzekelo, ubuhlobo obukhoyo phakathi kwabamelwane okanye abantu osebenza nabo.
- Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo Iza kubandakanya inqanaba elinzulu loqhagamshelo kunye nokuthembana. Aba bahlobo baya kube belapho kumaxesha amnandi namabi.
- Ubuhlobo obusenyongweni Bubudlelwane obunzulu kakhulu ngandlela zonke, kunye neqondo elikhulu lokuthembana kunye nenkxaso phakathi kwamaqela.
Iingcebiso okanye izikhokelo ekufuneka uzilandele ukwenza abahlobo
Shiya indawo yo thuzelo
Ukuba ufuna ukwenza abahlobo, kubalulekile ukuba uphume ukusuka kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Ngale ndlela kuhle ukuya kwiimbutho zolonwabo okanye ukuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezahlukeneyo zasekuhlaleni.
Ukuphuhlisa izakhono zentlalo
Yiba nezakhono ezithile zentlalo Zingundoqo kwaye zibalulekile xa kuziwa ekwenzeni abahlobo:
- Kubalulekile ukuziqhelanisa ukuphulaphula ngokukhawuleza nabanye abantu. Kufuneka ubeke ingqalelo kwinto ethethwa ngomnye umntu okanye uphawule kwaye uphendule ngokuchanekileyo.
- Uvelwano Yenye into ekungafuneki ukuba ilahleke xa udibana nabantu abatsha. Oku akukho nto ngaphandle kokuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye kunye nokwabelana ngeyakho.
- Kufuneka isetyenziswe unxibelelwano olusebenzayo, okanye into efanayo, cacisa kwaye uvule xa unxibelelana nabanye abantu.
Qala iincoko
Ukuqalisa okanye ukuqalisa incoko ngemibandela eyahlukahlukeneyo kunokukunceda wenze abahlobo. Ukuba wabelana ngezinto anomdla kuzo nomnye umntu, musa ukuthandabuza ukuthetha ngayo, njengaye icinema, umculo okanye umdlalo.
Yiba ngumntu wokwenene
Ukuba yinyani yinto enokwenza kube lula ukudibana nabantu abatsha kwaye wenze abahlobo. Kubalulekile ukuba uzibonakalise njengoko unjalo, ukususela kwimfezeko kunye nokunyaniseka Yinto exatyiswa kakhulu xa kusakhiwa ubudlelwane bobuhlobo.
Eminye imiqobo enokukuthintela ekwenzeni abahlobo
Mamaxesha amaninzi, uloyiko lokulahlwa Idla ngokuba yingxaki yokwenene xa kufikwa ekwenzeni abahlobo. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukwamkela oku kugatywa kwaye usebenze ukufumana amathuba amatsha okudibana nabantu.
Ukungazithembi kunye nokungazithembi Basenokuba ngunobangela wobunzima xa kufikelelwa kumba wokwenza abahlobo. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kubalulekile ukusebenza kule ngxaki ukuze ukwazi ukoyisa lo mqobo.
Ngamafutshane, ukwenza abahlobo bubuchule bentlalontle obunokukunceda wonwabe kwaye ufumane impilo-ntle ekudala ilindelwe. Phuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, ukwazi ukuphuhlisa izakhono zentlalo kunye nokunqoba imiqobo efana nokoyika ukwaliwa, Kuya kukuvumela ukuba wenze abahlobo. Isitshixo kuyo yonke into kukuba yinyani kwaye wenze umzamo wokunxibelelana nabanye.