Akungabazeki ukuba isiphelo salo naluphi na ulwalamano yintlalontle yalo. Xa oku kungenzeki, abantu abaninzi bafumana imvakalelo yokoyika ukulahlwa liqabane labo. Olu loyiko okanye uloyiko lwenza umntu angakwazi ukonwabela ngokupheleleyo iqabane abanalo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikunika uthotho lwezitshixo zokoyisa uloyiko lokulahlwa kunye ukukwazi ukonwabela ubudlelwane ngokupheleleyo.
Izitshixo zokukwazi ukoyisa uloyiko lokushiywa liqabane
Uloyiko lokulahlwa olunjalo luya kuxhomekeka ubukhulu becala kulwalamano analo umntu ebuntwaneni. Ukwenzakala kwasebuntwaneni okunjengoqhawulo-mtshato lomzali kusenokubangela imvakalelo enjalo yokulahlwa kweso sibini. Nangona isenokubonakala iyingxaki eyodwa, inyaniso kukuba abantu abaninzi baye bazive beziva benjalo ngoxa besebudlelwaneni ngokupheleleyo. Olu loyiko lukhokelela ekungakhuseleni kunye nokunqongophala kokuthembana okungalunganga kwikamva lobudlelwane ngokwalo.
Sukuphulukana neenkcukacha zoluhlu lwezitshixo okanye iingcebiso eziya kukunceda woyise uloyiko lokushiywa liqabane lakho:
- Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuchonga unobangela okanye isizathu sokuba uloyiko olunjalo luveliswe. Ukusuka apha, kulula kakhulu kwaye kulula ukujongana nengxaki enjalo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ubudlelwane abube sengozini.
- Uloyiko okanye uloyiko lokulahlwa liqabane ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yeengxaki zokuzithemba. Kuqhelekile ukuba umntu ochaphazelekayo abe nokungakhuseleki okuthile okubangela uloyiko olunjalo. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuzama ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba okunjalo kwaye ufezekise ukuzithemba okukhulu.
- Ukuhlala phantsi uthethe neqabane lakho ubuso ngobuso ngale ngxaki kubalulekile ekoyiseni uloyiko olunjalo lokulahlwa. Ukuvakalelwa kukuba ukulahlwa yinto engekhoyo kwaphela ngundoqo ukuze ukwazi ukoyisa uloyiko olunjalo.
- Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingxaki ayisonjululwanga, nangona kuzanywa ngandlela zonke. Kwiimeko ezinjalo akukho nto eyenzekayo ukufuna uncedo ngaphandle kwaye Yiya kuhlobo oluthile lonyango lwezibini ukoyisa uloyiko olunjalo.
- Enye ingcebiso xa kufikwa ukoyisa uloyiko lokulahlwa liqabane lakho kukukhathalela wena kwaye ufezekise impilo-ntle ethile. Kucetyiswa ukwenza imikhwa ethile enceda ukonwaba kwaye ushiye uloyiko lokulahlwa kwesi sibini. Ngale ndlela kuya kuba kuhle ukuziqhelanisa nomdlalo othile wokuphumla okanye ukuzikhupha nabahlobo.
Ngamafutshane, Akulula kwaphela ukugcina ubudlelwane nomnye umntu kwaye uhlale uziva uloyiko lokulahlwa. Ngenxa yoku, kubalulekile ukuba nenkxaso yeqabane xa ukoyisa ingxaki enjalo. Khumbula ukuba akukho lula okanye kulula ukoyisa uloyiko olunjalo kwaye kufuna umonde nonyamezelo olukhulu. Ukucinga ngentlalontle kunye nolonwabo lombhangqwana kubalulekile kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukunqoba uloyiko olunjalo kwaye ujabulele ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane ngokwawo.