Unxibelelwano nabantwana lungundoqo ukuze babe nokuphuhla a ukuzithemba okuhle kwaye ufunde izakhono zentlalo kubalulekile. sebenzisa ulwimi ezintle kwaye imbeko iya kunceda ukomeleza umanyano lwentsapho kwaye iqinisekise ukukhula okungcono ngokweemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abaninzi basenza impazamo yokusebenzisa ulawulo-olunyanzelo baze babhenele kwizithintelo zokufundisa abantwana babo, nto leyo enokuthi ingabi namveliso ekukhuleni kwabo.
Kweli nqaku siza kuphonononga ezahlukeneyo buchule y amabinzana akhayo onokuthi usebenzise ukufundisa abantwana bakho ngendlela eyakhayo, naxa bengamameli, oko kukunceda ukhuthaze intsebenziswano nokuthembana ekhaya.
Faka igama elithi "Hayi" endaweni yalo
Ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithisileyo kuka-“Hayi” kaninzi kunempembelelo embi ebantwaneni. Nangona ibalulekile imida yamanqaku, kusebenza ngakumbi ukutshintsha amabinzana angalunganga ngolwakhiwo olunika uqhelaniso kunye nezinye iindlela ezibambekayo. Oku akuncedi kuphela abantwana ukuba baqonde imithetho, kodwa bakhuthaza ukusebenzisana kwabo kunye kufunda.
Thetha ngokuthambileyo endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukukhwaza"
Abantwana basabela ngcono kumabinzana kulungile ukubaxelela ntoni ewe banako. Endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukukhwaza," zama "Masithethele phantsi." Oku kubanika isikhokelo esicacileyo ngaphandle kwesidingo sokusebenzisa ukukhanyela, ukukhuthaza ngakumbi ngoxolo.
"Gqiba phantsi" endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukutsiba ebhedini"
Ukwalela ngaphandle kokunika ezinye iindlela kunokumkhathaza umntwana. Ukuba ugxuma ebhedini, nikezela ngesisombululo esikuvumela ukuba uqhubeke ujabulela umsebenzi: "Gxuma phantsi." Ngale ndlela, uyayihlonela imfuneko yabo intshukumo ngelixa ubeka imida.
"Linda ithuba lakho lokuthetha" endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukuphazamisa"
Ukuba umntwana wakho uphazamisa incoko, endaweni yokumthethisa, sebenzisa amabinzana anikelwe ekufundiseni isimilo esihle y amaxabiso entlalo, njengokuthi "Linda ixesha lakho lokuthetha." Oku komeleza ukuhloniphana kunye nomonde.
"Masifumane indawo onokuthi ubalekele kuyo ngokukhuselekileyo"
Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana babaleka kwiindawo ezingafanelekanga. Endaweni yokuba uthi "Awubaleki apha!", banike ezinye iindlela ezingahloneli kuphela isidingo sabo Umsebenzi, kodwa khawukhethe wena khu seleko, njengokuthi "Masiye ukufumana indawo apho unokubaleka ngokukhuselekileyo."
Bonisa ukuzithemba ngamazwi
Ukusetyenziswa kwamabinzana abonisayo ukuzithemba kubuchule babantwana bakho kubalulekile ekomelezeni ukuzithemba kwabo. Imeko apho baziva bexatyiswe kwaye bexhaswa ikhuthaza ukuzimela kunye nezakhono zokumelana. Ukusombulula ingxaki.
Ndiyathemba ukuba uza kuyicombulula ngembeko le ngxaki nomntakwenu.
Kunokuba uyalele, “Musa ukulwa nomzalwana wakho,” khetha ukudlulisela ukuzithemba: “Ndiyakuthemba ukuba uza kuyicombulula ngentlonelo ingxaki nomzalwana wakho.” Oku kubafundisa ukulawula iingxabano zabo ngokuzimela nangokwakhayo.
"Uyakwazi ukuthetha ngentlonipho"
Ukuba umntwana unesimo sengqondo sokungakhathali, kuphephe ukukhankanya ingxaki kuphela. Yomeleza amandla abo okunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo ngokuthi, "Uyayazi indlela yokuthetha nabanye." ntlonipho, ubonisile ngaphambili.
"Ukuba amanzi achitheka, sinokucoca kunye"
Umzekelo omkhulu wokuthembela kunye nokusombulula iingxaki kukujongana neengozi nge ukuqonda. Eli binzana alibafundisi nje ukulungisa iimpazamo zabo, kodwa likwakhuthaza uvelwano kunye nentsebenziswano.
Tshintsha iiodolo ngeenketho
Ukunika abantwana iinketho kukhuthaza zabo ukuzimela y inkululeko, ukubanceda bakhulise ubuchule ukwenza izigqibo ukususela kwiminyaka yokuqala.
"Khetha i-snack: ibhanana okanye iapile?"
Endaweni yokunika umyalelo othe ngqo onje ngokuthi “Yitya isiqhamo,” ukunika iinketho kuvumela abantwana ukuba bathathe inxaxheba ngenkuthalo kwizigqibo zabo, nto leyo eyomeleza imvakalelo yabo yokuzimela.
"Ibuthathaka, yijonge ngononophelo"
Xa abantwana benomdla wokuphatha izinto ezibuthathaka, endaweni yokuthi "Musa ukuyiphatha loo nto," bachaze ubuthathaka babo kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba baziqwalasele ngenyameko ukuze banelise umdla wabo.
"Ngaba ukhetha ukuhlamba ngaphambi okanye emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa?"
Ukunika izinto onokukhetha kuzo kukwanceda ukuthintela imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla efana nokuhlamba ukuba ibeyimpixano. Ukubabuza xa befuna ukwenza oko kuyabanika imvakalelo yolawulo kwindlela yakho.
"Ukhetha njani ukubulisa umakhulu: ngokumanga okanye ukuwola?"
Kubalulekile ukuba singanyanzelisi ukubonakalisa uthando. Kunokuba ubancamise, babuze ukuba bakhetha ukubonisa uthando. Oku kuyakhuthaza ntlonipho kwiimvakalelo namalungelo abo.
Intsebenziswano kunye nokuvumelana
Kunokuba umisele imithetho engqongqo, khuthaza ukusebenzisana ngaphakathi ekhaya. Oku akunciphisi impixano kuphela, kodwa ikwafundisa abantwana bakho ngokubaluleka qela kunye uvelwano.
"Ndingakunceda uthabathe izinto zokudlala?"
Ukucoca igumbi kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima, kodwa ukunika uncedo kukhuthaza ukuzimisela kwabantwana ukusebenzisana. Eli binzana likwabethelela intsingiselo ye inkxaso efanayo.
"Masivumelane ngexesha lokubuya"
Xa abantwana beqalisa ukuba nokuzonwabisa, njengokuphuma nabahlobo, ukuvumelana ngocwangciso kunokuba banyanzelise kuthintela uxinezeleko yaye kubanceda baqonde ukubaluleka kokuphumeza izivumelwano.
"Ndilapha ukuze ndikuncede xa uyidinga"
Amabinzana afana neli abethelela i unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana, ukubabonelela khu seleko kunye nenkxaso ngamaxesha anzima. Olu hlobo lonxibelelwano lukhuthaza a indawo yokuthembana nokusondelelana.
Ukudala imeko-bume efanelekileyo neyakhayo yokukhulisa abantwana akuncedi nje kuphela ukukhula komntu ngamnye, kodwa ikwaphucula ngokuphawulekayo amandla osapho. Ukutshintsha imiyalelo kunye nezithintelo ngokhetho kunye namabinzana akhayo komeleza ukuzithemba kwabo kwaye kukhuthaza amaxabiso abalulekileyo anjengentlonipho, intsebenziswano kunye nokuzimela. Ngalo lonke igama, abantwana baya kufumana ukhokelo abaludingayo ukuze bakhule bekhuselekile kwaye bonwabile, beluxabisa unxibelelwano nothando lwabazali babo.
