Ukuba ukhe wanengxaki yokuxhomekeka uya kwazi ukuba kufana nokukhotyokiswa ngokwasengqondweni okwenza uxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo. I-Codependency ivela xa abantu ababini abakhotyoke ngokwengqondo beseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Kodwa yintoni eyona mvelaphi yale ngxaki? Abantu abakhotyokisiweyo ngokwasengqondweni basenokuba bakhuliswe kwiintsapho ezinengxaki ngemikhwa emibi yobuzali kunye nemeko yengqondo engathandekiyo yophuhliso oluhle lwenkwenkwe okanye intombazana.
Iingqondo zabantwana zinovelwano kakhulu kuxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokungahloneli. Xa abantwana bephakathi kweminyaka emi-2 kunye ne-3 ubudala, bangena kwisigaba esitsha sophuhliso lwengqondo kwaye yilapho bezimele okanye cha. I-ego ifundisa abantwana abazimeleyo ukuba bathathe uxanduva ngezenzo zabo, ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokukwazi ukulawula uloyiko, ixhala kunye nokulawula ukuziphatha kwabo. Abantwana abangadlulanga kweli nqanaba lokukhula baya kuqhubeka bexhomekeke kubazali babo okanye kwabanye abantu.
I-Codependency iyanyangeka kwaye ukuchacha kuya kuza kungekudala okanye kamva kuxhomekeke kumnqweno wakho wokutshintsha ubomi bakho. Ndiyathemba ukuba obu buchule kunye neengcebiso ziyakunceda uqhawule amaqhina eemvakalelo akwenza ukwenzakala kwaye angahlali xesha lide ebomini bakho. Apha ngezantsi ndikubonisa imivundla yokoyisa ukuxhomekeka.
Chaza imida yeemvakalelo
Ukuze ube nenkululeko yeemvakalelo kunye nokuzithemba kufuneka uchaze imida yeemvakalelo. Ixesha alincedi xa kufikwa kwingxaki ye psychological, lisenokuyandisa ingxaki.Ukuba awenzi naliphi na ilinge lokutshintsha ubomi bakho, indlela ocinga ngayo, indlela ocinga ngayo, okanye uzikhusele kuloyiko lwakho nakwizinto ozisebenzisayo, ixesha liyakudlula. ayisebenzi..
Bonke abantu abathwaxwa yi-codependency abazi ukuba babeke njani imida yeemvakalelo kwaye oku kubenza babe novelwano kakhulu kwaye basesichengeni ngokwasengqondweni.. Ukuba uziva unetyala okanye unetyala ngenxa yabanye okanye oko abanye basenokukucinga, ufanele umisele imida yeemvakalelo ngempilo-ntle yakho yeemvakalelo.
Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba kwenziwa njani? Kuya kufuneka uzobe umgca wentelekelelo phakathi kwakho kunye neentlungu, iimfuno zakho, iingxaki kunye neentlungu zabanye. Ungavumeli okanye uvumele abanye ukuba bakhuphe iimvakalelo zabo kuwe kuba kubi kakhulu ukufunxa iintswelo zabanye.. Khumbula ukuba abazali bakho namalungu entsapho yakho nabo banjalo. Yazisa wonke umntu ukuba unokuhlala ubaxhasa, ubahlonela kwaye ubathande kodwa awuzukubavumela ukuba badlulisele iingxabano zabo zangaphakathi kuwe. Idlulile!
Yiba nokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo
Endaweni yokubeka ithemba komnye umntu, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza kukuzimela ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye uzimele kuzo zonke iinkalo.. Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kudla ngokukholelwa ukuba sisiphumo sokuxhomekeka kwezoqoqosho.. Kwiintsapho ezininzi ezinobuzwilakhe, abazali banciphisa amathuba abantwana babo ngokulawula imali. Abasetyhini abaninzi abaxhomekeke kwi-codependent abangafuni ukudibanisa umsebenzi kunye nobomi bentsapho bakuthola kunzima ukuthatha inyathelo lokuzimela ... ngenxa yokuba baxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ngokwemali kwiqabane labo ... ezi zibizwa ngokuba ngamaketanga eemvakalelo kunye nezingabonakaliyo.
Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokuqhawula la matyathanga, kufuneka ubeke phambili ukuzimela kwakho ngokwasezimalini kwaye uqale ukusebenza wedwa ukuze ukwazi ukuba noqoqosho lwakho. Ungumntu okhululekileyo nozimeleyo, kwaye oku kuya kukunceda uzive ungcono kakhulu ngawe, uya kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye ukwandise ukuchasana kwakho noxinzelelo, ukugxekwa kwezentlalo kunye nokuphathwa kakubi ngokweemvakalelo, zama kwaye ubone!